I’ve been holding off on this post because it affects my personal life so greatly, but it IS a part of me so I shouldn’t be so shy about it. I’ve been in a long distance relationship for close to two years and it’s been fun and exciting.
I’ve learned so many things, met some great people, and have been able to travel to new places over the past couple years!
It’s a challenge, don’t get me wrong but we’ve worked out a system that works for us. I’ve met a lot of people who don’t really understand how things work or how we’re really a ‘normal’ couple. These are the questions I’ve been asked the most over the past two years and some things I’ve learned throughout this journey.
“But what if he talks to other girls?”
This is probably the question I’ve been asked the most, totally understandable though. The thing is: we are humans, we have friends, and we both talk to the opposite sex every single day. We both have coworkers and friends of the opposite sex and that’s not going to change.
We trust each other so the thought of ‘something’ happening doesn’t cross my mind. If I were hung up on that, I would always sit in my miserable puddle of worry and that wouldn’t be fun, would it?
“Don’t you get lonely?”
Of course! That is what I dislike most about living 287 miles away from Max. We talk a lot throughout the day and talk about work and friends but it’s not the same; it’s a waiting game counting down days until we’re able to see each other.
But I don’t want to make myself seem miserable because then I’d be lying. I work most days and if I’m not working, I’m with my friends. My life keeps me pretty busy! I also recently was given a kitten that’s been keeping my heart full and has given me someone to cuddle up next to on the couch. I got her probably a week before Max moved so she came into my life right when I needed her.
“Why didn’t he text you back quickly?”
Like I said, we both have jobs that occupy the majority of our time and I’m in school too. We both have a lot going on and if we were always nagging about responding to texts, it would get old fast.
We both take into consideration the other has responsibilities and it just works for us.We make time for each other so much every day, so it’s okay if we’re not always in constant conversation.
I’ve learned first-hand:
- Never talk about serious issues or problems over text. In our world, phone calls are foreign but important conversations should never be held over text, just give them a call. **Most important**
- Don’t let what your friends say get to you. Most people won’t be able to see things from you perspective anyway.
- Trust is the most important thing. If you don’t have trust, what do you have?
- FaceTime is our best friend. After a long day, “hanging out” with Max is my favorite thing to do.
- It takes two to make things work. Teamwork is the keyword here.
- We are supported by so many. Our family and friends really love and encourage us. (Thank you 🙂 )
The hardest thing: when one of us is having a bad day or sick and we can’t be there. That is definitely the most upsetting part, but we do what we can. A phone call makes all the difference when things just aren’t going right. But I can say Max is so encouraging and says the right things just in time to save the day.
I’m very thankful for knowing Max and having a strong relationship with him even though most of the time he’s almost 300 miles away.
I wouldn’t say a long distance relationship is right for everyone, but I’m not the judge of that. Anything is possible with the right attitude.